It is the secret that slowly kills the survivors esteem, purpose and spirit for a significantly long time after the last incident. This secret permeates every aspect of one's daily life, as if the abuser is still present to harm again.
Conversely, the abuser remains "puffed up" and stronger for having gotten away with such a vile offense only to perpetrate it again and again and again...
Remove his/her hold over you and TELL! The release will remove the weight of stifling negativity and restore your power and help others along the way.